I tried the erection rings... and frankly, why did I wait so long?

I've tried erection rings... and frankly, why did I wait so long?

Well, between work, packing lunches, loads of laundry and the kids always getting up when things start to heat up in the bedroom... let's just say that spontaneous, long, hot sex isn't what it was in the early days. And that's okay. Life changes, and so does sex.

But recently, I've been feeling like spicing things up a bit as a couple. Not because things weren't going well, but because I'm convinced that pleasure has to be cultivated. And that's when I came across something not so new, but which had been intriguing me for a while: the erection ring.

What exactly is an erection ring?

A erection ringis a small accessory (often made of silicone or rubber) that you place at the base of the penis, and sometimes around the testicles, to slow the flow of blood out of the penis during an erection. The result? A firmer, longer-lasting erection, and an often more intense sensation at the moment of orgasm.

In short: it's like a technical support for your virility. And it's not just for those with erectile dysfunction. It's for anyone who wants to boost their pleasure a little.

My experience: between skepticism and (very) pleasant surprise

I'm not going to pretend: the first time, I was a bit embarrassed. I felt a bit like a teenager trying something "kinky" for the first time. But my wife got on board straight away. She thought it was funny, sexy, and she liked the fact that I was taking the initiative for us.

The ring is easy to put on (I got a soft silicone model) and once in place, you almost forget it's there... until you realize your erection is a little more wow than usual. We're not talking superpowers, but clearly a difference in firmness and duration.

And the orgasm? For real, more intense. It's like you've been holding back a little longer, and then it all explodes at once.

What it's changed in our relationship

• More fun together. We laughed, we explored, we rediscovered certain pleasures together. It's like adding a new dish to a menu you already love.

• Less pressure. The ring also helps when fatigue sets in or you're afraid you won't "deliver" because of stress or lack of sleep (thanks kids).

• More confidence. When you feel you're performing well and your girlfriend's getting a kick out of you, well, that's a real esteem booster. And you feel it in your everyday life too.

Here's some advice if you want to give it a try

• Choose your model carefully. There are vibrating ones, textured ones, wider ones and tighter ones. Start simple.

• Don't keep it on too long. About 20-30 minutes max, for safety and comfort.

• Lubricate a little. So it doesn't pull or pinch (especially if you put it around your testicles).

• Communicate. Tell your partner how you feel, ask her how she likes it. It's a great way to listen to each other.

In conclusion: a small discovery, a big impact

At 35, I'm far from old, but I'm beginning to understand that sexual pleasure evolves. And, above all, that it's worth putting energy into. The erection ring isn't a crutch, it's a tool. An ally. A little boost that can make a big difference.

So if you're in a relationship, with or without kids, and you feel like exploring without taking yourself too seriously, give it a try. Seriously. You might be surprised... like me.